cadence23 question : My mother was very angry and bitter since her divorce … Advice?
As my mother to divorce after 30 years of marriage, unhappy, my alcoholic handed, violent father, she was unhappy, bitter and terrible for me. Thank God, I did not live with one of them more, since I’m an adult now. LOL It makes the distinction for me is that I was a teenager disrespect when I was younger (very true .. I was just a student in all AP classes, a model and actress and have more on my resume that she does. I I never got into trouble at all. When I was 16 I started … she is very old and not in dating to believe in marriage. She says I ruined his plan for me and I am a disgrace to the family . adays Now if I complain to visit, it’s about and that I ruined my life does not go to church dating before marriage. It threatens their allegations against me to catch her outside her house (this actually happened that I in Bad’m locked away and to complain to scream). It also threatens to cut me from his will. She is very emotional and verbal abuse. She said if I did not hear the rules and intrusion into the premises if they are not invited ( I remember the court granted access to the house I grew up here and my mother had custody of us, even though I am over 18) it will “play ball”, and you document everything and get them when they should It shows the authorities caused so much fear in my life and if I stay level headed, I wish she would get help Best Answer:..
response of Queen Agnostic you need to read a book called “The adult children of alcoholics” … Your relationship with your mother has some chapters that are identical. You see … if a person with an alcohol content of them sick in the head live …… Her mother is carried out for 30 years and have probably not yet occupied. She was unhappy … and I saw you grow …. thats hard …… So instead of proud of you she was jealous …. not that she wants to be, it is fair. She needs guidance and you too … This is an unhealthy relationship … no better than his marriage to distance themselves put stop to further abuse ……. We love our parents, but it does not mean we have to stay there and suffer because they are our parents … and vice versa. Your mother needs help …. 30 years is a time of abuse and just less than a bottle. And you are a child must learn this kind of life, how to cope without a sacrifice ….. only the fact that you keep returning for more tells me you have developed an illness as well. Alcoholism is a terrible family … with tous.bonne luck for that
Question by cadence23: My mom has been very bitter and angry since her divorce… any advice?
Ever since my mom filed for divorce after 30 years of miserable marriage to my alcoholic, abusive father, she has been miserable, bitter, and terrible to me. Thank goodness I don’t have to live with either of them anymore since I’m an adult now. LOL She blames the divorce on me saying that I was a disrespectful teenager when I was younger (very untrue.. i was a straight A student in all AP classes, a model and actress and have more on my resume than she does. I never got into trouble at all. When I was 16 I started dating… she’s very old fashioned and doesn’t believe in dating until marriage. She says I ruined her plan for me and am a disgrace to the family. Now adays, when I visit, she walks around complaining that I ruined my life not going to church and dating before marriage. She threatens that she will press charges against me for trapping her outside of her house (what really happened was that I locked myself in the bathroom to get away from her yelling and complaining). She also threatens to cut me out of her will. She’s very emotionally and verbally abusive. She says if I don’t listen to her rules and trespass on her premises when not invited (may I remind you the court granted me access to the house as I grew up here and my mother had custody of us even though I’m over 18) that she will “play ball” and she documents everything and will use it if she must to show to authorites. She causes so much anxiety in my life and even though i remain level headed, i wish she’d get help.
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Answer by Brianna Im so sorry for this. You could try a few things. be extremely nice to her, tell her jokes, go to an art class or something with her. Tell her you love her, wright a letter to her and put cute Hello Kitty stickers on it. If she doesn’t respond, or if she gets mad then tell her you are getting married. On the other hand you can choose the other way to handle it. Tell her that your whole childhood was ruined because of her. Tell her you are sorry if you ever hurt her in anyway. Tell her that it wasn’t yours, or her fault for your father leaving. Tell her your father was a jerk, and family is a privilege. It is a privilege that he did not have the right to. Ask her for forgiveness, tell her you love her. And if she still hates you, tell her that you will ALWAYS be there for her, if she needs you. Then when you are leaving, blow a kiss goodbye. And when you have time, bake her a cake, or buy her her favorite drink. Hope this helps!
