How to file for divorce – Divorce advice for women

Question by vanity: this tuesday me and my husband will file a divorce,i need your last advice?
im asianwomen married to korean guy 5 years ago
when i get married that time i just broke up with my two years relationship boyfriend
and honestly my life was financially unstable
even if the man is 15 years older than me i decided to get married and get out of my poor country
at first my mind was set to have a simple life and make family we dont have boyfriend girlfriend relationship with my husband we met three days then decided to get married
after i had a baby boy
my life was changed
when my son was one year old it seems i dont like my life anymore we always got a fight
and i cant live my life in the old traditional way of life in the new country
we are totally diffrent
and i just try to live with him for the sake of my son
but as time pass i dont really want to live a life in control the problem with me and my husband is first we dont have bonding we dont talk alot also because of language barrier and the things that i want most are the things that he hates mo

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Answer by redpeach_mi
you don’t need advice, you need a divorce. you should have never gotten married in the first place. but that’s in the past now. just try to make it right. if that means getting divorced, then do it.

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Question by Belva: Need Advice: Husband brought up option of Divorce twice in 6 months?
In last 6 months my husband has brought up the fact he wants divorce twice! Of course, it’s during arguments. Am I being stupid & naive for giving it a 3rd go round with him or should I be packing my bags and getting on with my life? I love him, but I won’t be reduced to threats and he inevitabley tells me he really wants to work it out. After two diferrent occasions of it being an option for him, I am wondering if he stays because he’s scared of being alone etc etc.

HELP!!
Thanks everybody (well most of you) and a big thanks to you Paul for being so human!!! I agree and feel the same way

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Answer by Ryde On
you aren’t getting the job done and you have been put on notice..

Shape up , make the necessary changes or hit the road.

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Question by leo31nierras: is it okay to to stay and live with husband while waiting for the final divorce for my husband?
I just want to know if its okay to live in the same house with husband while waiting for my divorce paper to be final. I’m filing a summary dissolution for divorce since we don’t have a kid or property. My husband is agree to it that i can leave with him while waiting for the divorce. What do you think about these idea. Please i need your advice about these situation. thank you for your respond.

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Answer by Mike
sure it’s ok…as long as you don’t mind him with some hottie at 2AM downstairs

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Question by Iris: I never got divorce because my husband is no where to be found?
I never got divorced, first my husband refused to get a divorce, and fled the country. Now ,I want to get married, and I can’t. They told me that I can get re-marry by Church, if I only got married in court and in another country. How true is that? Any advice?
There got to be an easy way to divorce him other than placing ads in the newpaper which is silly, since he is out of the country. I just wanted to have a way to just go to the attorney, sign papers and keep it confidential and less painful. Any Atorney’s around?

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Answer by KimBaby
It’s called divorce in absentia or some such. Talk to an attorney. A divorce is still feasible. Missing spouse or not.

If your ex is not around (MIA) you HAVE to place ads in public periodicals. That’s the ONLY way to do it. Sad, but true, fact.
And trust me, these types of “advertisements” are pretty much hidden in the newspapers. I wouldn’t worry about it overmuch. Not like its going to be on the front page.

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Question by simpleysassy: I divorced my husband 3 yrs ago.he wont move out or accept the divorce.nothings changed.Im miserable.advice?

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Answer by cisco_cantu
Who got the house if it’s you, go to the courhouse and get a notice of eviction and have sheriff with you when you serve him with it.

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Question by sleepwalkin smith: Divorce. I have 2 young girls and need to leave my husband. I am looking for any advice on where to begin!!?
There is no saving this train wreck. Last night I was called every name in the book in front of my daughters. He went on to say he hates me and each child. I am tired of him. I am tired of his mouth. I am tired of his baloney.

I have 2 under 2 and haven’t worked since my eldest was born. I am afraid! the thought of raising them alone is mind blowing but I know I can’t stay. Just looking for some advice from those who have been here…

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Answer by General Custer
Start by talking to a good divorce lawyer.

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Question by Melissa: Any advice on dealing with a cheating husband?
We have 2 young kids, and I’ve just been pushing through and ignoring it. Right now, my drinking partying husband spends about 1/2 hour a day with our kids and me. I’m worried that he will get 50% custody if we divorce. I hate him, but need advice to stay strong so I don’t have to lose my kids for so much time.

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Answer by Smoke
YOU file for a divorce and the system should find in your favour.

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Question by Paula P: I have not seen my husband since 2 months after we married in 1997. We have nothing together. I need a divorce?
I am told by his ex best friend that he has about 5 children with someone else… I have no Idea what state he is in or a clue in the world where he is at. I dont care where he is. I need to know if I am already divorced since its been 12 yrs or if I can get a one signature divorce. I dont remember anything about him but his name, and that he has family in Texas. THATS IT. I need advice.

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Answer by Bird Brain
Get a Lawyer. That would be my advice. They will sort everything out.

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Question by Kym: I think I want to divorce my husband. Any advice?
I live in California; no children; married for a little over 1 year now; I dred coming home from work; I dred being bothered about sex when I go to bed; I am seeing a therapist for the first visit on Thursday; my family does not like him; he doesn’t have assets; we don’t own anything together.

There is nothing invested in this marriage. Should I feel guilty about wanting to leave? What other things should I be thinking about while I am pondering what to do?
I married him too soon. He proposed 3 months after our first date and I was in a vulnerable place with a sister that just passed away 2 months previous. I do agree that I made a poor decision, but I’m not looking for a tounge-lashing… I’m looking for things to consider while I am working on TRYING to see if I can get the ‘spark’ back or not.

In the meantime, I know that I am being a really ugly person to him (not having any feelings for him, not wanting to spend time doing anything with him, being consumed that he has not held a job since we married… just all around, resenting him for everything!

I’m not the person he wished I was either… either before or after we married, but he thought it was still going to be okay and apparantly it’s not.
And, yes, I have talked with him about all this. It is not going to hit him out of the blue!

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Answer by Aimes
That you made a vow that says for better or for worse…til death do us part..

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Question by Pirincess 1: why my husband doesn’t want to sign the financial paper of the divorce?
I need an advice I file for divorce on February 13 this year I finally found my husband in New York, he actually abandoned me with bills debt etc. He sign some paper of divorce except the financial he refuse to sign that part, if not they won’t give me the divorce from him. He is still in love with another woman name Angelica, he use me for my stuff and money he never love me, please someone any legally advice. Thank you!

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Answer by Ericka H
Get a lawyer and get out. There is no need for you to be financing his affair and lifestyle. Call a local divorce attorney and ask for some legal counseling.

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