How to file for divorce – Divorce advice for women

Question by : what should i do if i think my parents are getting a divorce?
my mom’s parents got a divorce and my uncle got a divorce i’m really scared but i stay strong because of my little brother! i love him and i try not to think about it. i wanna confront them but i am too scared i’d talk to my grandma but i’m kinda scared again i really don’t wanna go through the pain that my mom had to going to my grandpa’s then going back home with her mom thinking bout’ it scares me anyone have any advice?

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Answer by Trouble
Talk to your grandma mom about your feelings. If you mom wants to talk to you be there for her, other then that just be as good as you can not to add stress onto an already stressful situation.

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Question by Royalhinney: What’s the best way to tell your kids that you are getting a divorce?
After many years of marriage, we have decided that it would be in the best interest for our family if we were to separate and get a divorce. We are planning on sitting down with the kids (ages 11 and 15) and explaining to them that we love them, but mommy and daddy are getting a divorce. Does anyone have any insight on what would be the best way to break the news to them in a way that will minimize their pain? We are also going to have to tell them that we will be putting the house up for sale as well. Thank you in advance for any advice.
A few more facts…
We don’t hate each other, we don’t bad mouth each other now and would never do it in the future. That would only hurt our children by doing that. We have already agreed on a visitation schedule.

And for those who suggest counseling, thank you for offering that, but we’ve done that and it wasn’t successful.

Thank you all for your real advice.

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Answer by Violet Pearl
How sad. You should go to marriage counseling for 6 months before you destroy your family and their home. If you “loved” them as much as you say, you’d learn to get along– the “best” interest of your family is to stay together. You cannot minimize their pain! You are destroying their very foundation, home and family. It will be painful and destructive.
Can’t you and your spouse stay for another 7 years until the 11 year old is an adult, or do you mean it’s in your own best interest to destroy their lives?

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Question by Anonymous Poet: Really need advice on decision of getting a divorce.?
Me and husband got married even after I found out he cheated. He did not cheat physically, but still cheated on me. I was dumb enough to stay with him and marry him still. Since then he has told lies…small ones and broken small/big promises to me. I have caught him twice lying and trying to hide stuff. I dont trust him…I dont trust him at all and I feel I am holding him back by not wanting him to do anything or go anywhere. I also feel like I am holding myself back and hurting myself by staying with him because I worry myself to death that he is cheating on me. It makes me feel insecure and unstable and those two things I definitely am not, but thats how it makes me feel and I dont want to live that way. I want a divorce, but I am afraid. I have a 5 yr old from an old marriage…that one was easy to divorce. I have a 13 month old from this husband a son due the first week of June. I will be a single mom of 3 kiddos and that scares me. I would not have a problem dating, but I dont even want to do that now. Yet I dont want to be lonely. I dont know how it will be to be a single mom, other than hard b/c I have three kids. Is it really worth leaving and if I do, how do I not let him talk me out of leaving?
Fuck you smitty…You dont know shit of how I raise my kids and I swear if you lived by me…you regret ever answering this question you idiot.

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Answer by Smitty
Your 3 kids need to be the focus of your life for the next 18 years.
Do NOT even think about dating. Duh.
Your “I don’t want to be lonely” is what got YOU and YOUR 3 KIDS into this mess.
If you’re not capable of 100% self-less concern for your kids, you’re not fit to be MOM!

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Question by Insert Witty Name Here: A male friend of mine is going on his first date in 20 years (getting divorced) and needs advice?
He REALLY doesn’t want my advice. What advice would you give him?

I’m asking for a friend. Though I already implied that. Thanks.

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Answer by Ginger
just relax and be yourself, and enjoy the date.

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Question by KHS: Marriage advice needed!!! They are getting divorce please help?
My friend’s wife wants a divorce after 1 year of marriage. When they were going out there were no problem in their relationship; the problem started when they got married and he moved in with his wife and her mother. Many including me notice that her mother loves to get involve in their relationship. For example, when they have argument her mom will call his mom and tell her how bad her son is, and his wife will be next to her and agreeing everything her mother is saying.
I heard that they were arguing so much that they can’t even sleep in the same bed. From my point of view, I know that he does so much for her from dropping her off/picking her up from work because he is the only one with a car and know how to drive (they don’t even work in the same place and and have different schedule).
Now, she said that she is enough with all the BS, and she wants divorce. and after couple of days ,they agree to work things out, but he is so tired of starting everything all over again and start doing all the stuff he did before; he feels like things are still the same and nothing has changed and the same problem will surface again and again.

I personaly think that they need to stop arguing and come to compromise. They need to understand that relationship is giving up some of your right and give it to your partner and he/she need to do the same(thinking for one and another and not just yourself). They need to start to really take the marriage seriously in order to work things out.

Does anyone agree with me?
Please advise if you have more things to add

Thanks

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Answer by woodswalker
yes, i agree with what you are saying BUT the main problem that i see in this marriage is the mother’s unlimited involvement in their life!!! that’s a huge problem and one that’s not easily fixed! they need to get away from her or set some big-time limits and stick to them! they may need some outside help!

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Question by tryin2keepsane: Im working on getting a divorce and was laid off. Will the paupers affidavit help or work for me?
I have only been married for about a year and a half. She told me that she wanted a divorce and I have been trying to find some way to get some legal help or something. Can anyone offer any advice or put me in the direction of a good attorney? Thanks

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Answer by Prophet 1102
It’s doubtful you need much legal advice given you were only married for 1 1/2 years. You would need legal advice if a child is involved to be sure you get your visitation rights and custody issues resolved.

Basically, you should both leave with what you came in with, and share any bills, and divide up equally, anything you bought together.

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Question by Stephanie N: Please help- getting a divorce and need some advice!!?
My soon to be ex-husband and I have three children, two of whom receive SSI payments. I make too much money to recieve the payments, so they’re in his name. He doesn’t work, so has no income and has mental issues.
He wants to take me to court to pay him alimony and child support. I want to make this as painless for our children as possible, but I don’t know what to do.
If I take him to court, he’s going to make my life more of a hell than it already is.
What do I do?
Apparently, I didn’t explain things well. I got a great job and seperated right about the same time both kids were declared “disabled” (both have a congenital birth defect that has rendered them deaf).
It’s not about the money. I support my children. Period. He’s the one who refuses to work, hence he’s living off their social security.
Was curious how others with disabled children balance divorce, work and family when the other person isn’t willing to work with you?
We split custody. He has them during the day hours when I’m at work and we alternate weekends.

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Answer by Marcie
Talk to a lawyer, not internet strangers.

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M?ris? question : My parents are divorced. Advice and personal experience?
I’m in high school, and my younger sisters are not in school primaire.Ils know that my parents have divorced still maisma mother told me because she needed to talk to someone. Backround Info: My mother is my father moved more, do not look at him as a “man” more, more comme elle life with someone and after cleaning. But she was prêtepour stay in the marriage until my sisters were out of school. Maismon father now wants a divorce because he can not trust my mèreplus .. (She has lied his friend who happens to be unhomme-70 years because my father did not want them to have droitamis male.) I understand that my parents do not want to married / nes’aiment received as usual. I figured that out earlier. I’m sorry because I’m in a new house AGAIN.Je finally just have to enter into this new house that I lived for three annéesmaintenant, and I like it. But now I have to move in small unplus not know the house, and I really do not know Wanto.Si you could please give me some advice and personal experiences, questions also. I do not need help, wherever he could, with whom you speak. I speak étéparler my friend, but not personnelexpérience sujet.Note this: My mother has not had an affair with her ami.Je my parents to be happy, but I personally do not believe that séparationva make them happier .. But what they think is best, I think I’ll go with Best Answer.
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RedRabbit I know
it is hard, and believe me, I did not want to move, or when my parents got divorced, but at the same time I was so happy and relieved because I would stop fighting (not for long, however, and still happens from time to time) thought. Simply take the move as another opportunity to make new friends and seeing new things. And remember, their divorce is not your fault.

Question by NIC&HeR3: getting a Divorce and need some advice?
is this enough evidence that my husband is committing adultery I have I found that he had a myspace page a couple if months back and he put single on there and there were a few commits that girls left that I did not like. I printed the pages out just in case and keep them. Next I find a friend of the family tells me that he is cheating on me so she gives me the girls number I call the girl and she said yes they have been having sex for a while and she got pregnant but had an abortion. she even had his voice on her answer machine. He said that that was not his voice and it was some one elses. then I got his cell phone and looked through it and it has the girls number in the phone and has that he called her. I also found out where the girl lives at and she told me that she would go to court with me and she gave me a picture of him giving her a kiss in her house but you can not see his face but the clothes that he is wearing are his clothes. he does not know I have all this on him and is still saying that the girl is crazy he does not know her phone number or no where she lives and just says she is acting like that because she wants me. Do I have enough evidence or do I need even more Oh and one of the girls talking to him on myspace is her

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Answer by whisper
HONEY,,,U HAVE ALL THAT U NEED,,,HIS USING U,,,IF HE LOVED U,,HE WOULD NEVER B ON MY SPACE CKING OUT OTHER GIRLS,,,JUST HOPE HE DOESNT BRING HOME AIDS TO U BFORE U CAN GET OUT,,,,U DONT WANT TO DIE CAUSE OF HIS STUPIDITY,,,,,HIS CHEATING,,,AND JUST REMEMBER,,,,WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND,,,KARMA,,,WILL THROW HIM A LOT OF BAD LUCK,,,,,,AND ALL U GOTTA DO IS SET BACK N WATCH,,,HIM DROWN HIMSELF..IN ALL THE LIES HIS TELLING YOU,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,PEACE

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Question by Nichole: Just found out close cousin is getting a divorce, he is deployed in afghanistan right now and I would like?
I just found out that a very close cousin of mine, who is in afghanistan right now, is getting a divorce because his wife of one year cheated on him. He is very devastated and I would like to send him a care package to let him know that his family cares about him and is thinking of him during this awful time in his life. My question is, what should I include in a package that would comfort him during this time? Any advice is appreciate, thank you.

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Answer by roxxygrrl13
Pics of family
his fave snacks
any toiletries he uses

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