How to file for divorce – Divorce advice for women

Question by MoW39: Is it possible to file an uncontested divorce from the US if married in Alberta Canada to a Canadian resident?
I was married, but now want to get a divorce. My spouse is also fine with the uncontested divorce. Problem is, I am a U.S. resident living in Georgia and she is a Canadian resident living in Alberta. Can I file for divorce from here through the Canadian system or do I need to file in my current state of residency? Any advice would be great.

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Answer by Nehru
Yes,it is possile

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Question by Cora: How can I divorce an American from Canada?
If I got married in the US to an American then moved to Canada, how do I get a divorce? I’m a dual citizen so I’m American when I’m in the US.
Where can I get advice?

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Answer by LeeH
If you are residing in Canada now you will need to get divorced there. There are residency requirement before you can get divorced. Go to your municipal court (or their website) for more info on the process.

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How to Keep a Divorce from Hurting Your Mother-Daughter Relationship

As a single-parent mom, you already have a lot to juggle: working, raising children, and being both homemaker and housekeeper…not to mention everything else going on your life. If you’re the mom of a tween girl, you’re also faced with additional challenges as your daughter begins to go through the rapid physical changes puberty brings, forms a lasting opinion of herself, and finds her own strength and inner beauty. Your to-do list might be miles long, but even if it seems like you can’t possibly take on anything more, there are a few simple things you can do to make sure your relationship with your daughter doesn’t suffer after the divorce.

Here are three divorce-advice tips to help you keep a good mother-daughter relationship with your tween after the divorce is final.

Divorce Advice for Single-Parent Moms

1. Don’t treat her like your best friend or confidant.

Of course you are going through a tough time as you adjust to being a single-parent mom, and your daughter is going through a lot, too. It might be tempting to treat her like your best friend, but you don’t want to burden her with adult problems. Don’t think your mother-daughter relationship is becoming closer because you tell her every detail that goes through your head. Instead of becoming “best friends,” you could really be pushing her away by forcing her to make adult assessments of the divorce and its complexities.

2. Don’t give her a guilt-trip her because she wants to spend time with her father.

Girls who have positive relationships with their fathers (especially after a divorce) are more likely to grow up with healthy levels of self-confidence and have healthy relationships. In fact, instead of tearing down or resenting her relationship with her father, you should do everything you can to support it. Read “Help Your Ex Boost Your Daughters’ Self-Esteem and Confidence After Divorce” (link to parent article).

It’s important to support and encourage visitation between your ex-husband and your daughter. During her tween years, she will already be beginning to separate from him, and a divorce can hasten that feeling because the time she spends with her dad will probably be cut in half. Never make her feel guilty or as if she is choosing between her dad and you.

3. Get on the same page.

Although you won’t agree 100 percent of the time, join with your ex-husband in creating similar rules for both homes. Set core rules that will apply to her at both homes as she approaches her teen years. Speak to your ex-husband in advance to get his opinions and his cooperation when you have to administer discipline that could cross over into his visitation time. This way it will be easier for him to support and administer the discipline fairly and consistently in his home, too.

Being a single-parent mom isn’t easy, but you can keep your mother-daughter relationship intact by following these three pieces of divorce advice. To read more about how to navigate a relationship with your ex and how it affects your daughter, read Help Your Ex Boost Your Daughters’ and Confidence After Divorce.

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Question by xoxo: need advice from people who r divorce?
im going thro a divorce prossces..the pain in my heart is killing me..Im missing him im missing my house Im in NY now wit my family and he is in CA.. im just so lost.. there is an emptyness in my heart..i dont know wat to do how can i get over him..I dont wana go back to him I had a tough life wit him..sometimes i talk to him because of our divocre paper works and all that and every time i talk to him i cry and i curse him on the phone for distorying my life..then later i feel guilty..he made me suffer alot and i still care for him. I dont know it seems impossible for me to forget him and move on.. I wana know alil about ur divocre experinces..

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Answer by conny
If he is not willing to work things out and get help then you need to move on. No man is worth the pain your going through. Divorce takes time to heal.

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Question by Lizzie: How do I deal with the divorce of my parents? Any advice from kids who went through it?
My parents are getting a divorce and it’s made me change my ways of trust. I still talk to my friends and they know what I’m going through. I just have the tendency to push people away and I normally am never like that. A friend confronted me about it. Is this even normal? How do I get through this? I understand my mom is upset and my dad says he’s been upset. But it seems like he’s known he was going to do this for awhile. My feelings are so mixed up and I feel like I’m too worked up over this. I deal with my mom always crying, taking care of the house, meeting with my dad, talking to my brother, school, homework, tests, cheerleading. This is too much.

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Question by Empress ~of~Roam: Can I get some advice on a family dispute over land and divorce agreements from 23 years ago?
I’ll give this to you in 3rd person form so as not to lead anyone in any direction: In 1983 a couple w/ 3 grown sons was divorced. The man had a small farm that had been in his family for several generations. To keep things more civil the woman didn’t try to take the farm on the VERBAL agreement that it was given to the sons & the man agreed. They both remarried and now the man is sick, maybe dying. He says he is going to sell the farm and pay his debts and planned funeral expenses so he can die debt free and 2nd wife won’t have to spend the insurance on him. If any money is left over he will divide it among the 3 sons. The sons say it is not his to sell, but theirs due to agreement of 23 years ago. Legally, the deed has the man’s name on it. Should the proceeds be split w/1st wife because of the agreement (everything else was divided equally at the time of the divorce). Should all money go to sons? Should 2nd wife get any of it? The man wants to be fair and just, but WHO’S FARM IS IT
I am not either wife. One of the sons is my friend and he asked my opinion on the matter. He is concerned that 2nd wife is out to take the farm and any or all proceeds from it. She had already spent all of the man’s money on new cars, cruises to the Bahamas and fancy clothes. Now she is pushing him to sell the farm to pay all the debts she has accumulated b4 he dies from this illness and she is left having to pay the bills which are rightfully hers. He is a simple man with down-to earth tastes. I have known them all for 15 years. He would have never bought a new Cadillac (he drives a pickup) or taken a cruise. I fear my friend is right in that 2nd wife is draining his dad and now trying to take the last thing he has- the farm.

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Answer by Vicki B
You didn’t do a good job at disguising your bias by the way. Your avatar reveals you are a woman, “To keep things more civil” and the rest of the discourse reveals you are the 1st wife.

It’s his farm, it was a mistake to trust he would honor his verbal agreement from 23 years ago. He conveniently forgot about it.

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Question by Al Rozz: My divorce is under way any advice from anyone gone thru this?

It will be uncontested and she wants just a few of her things and thats it. Her parents are dead and left her with plenty.

If this goes well..great if it doesn’t this will be a long battle.

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Answer by . .
just start your own life over, no anger, no retribution, no arguements just accept it and get on with life, anger and hate only make you feel worse there is life after divorce, go out join a group of like minded people and start afresh it really works

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Question by turning around: need advice – I need to file for divorce from overseas?
I live in Asia, originally from the USA. Been here for 2 years. I have not heard from my estranged wife of 5 years since I came over here. 2 months ago I sent her a letter, telling her I wanted a divorce. No finger pointing, just friendly and too the point. Gave her the address of a paralegal in the USA that could put together all the paper work. I have yet to hear from her. The paralegal has no email address. Just snail mail.

We have no children.
All the assets are hers and I am not interested in them.
I am from California.

I want, at the very least, to file a legal separation. I just want to keep this simple. But all the legal web sites are complicated and non of them address the issue of overseas divorce. Some of them, it seems, are not legal … maybe I’m wrong.

I need to know the steps in the process and how to do it from here. I will not be coming back to the states for quite a while. I am alone here.

Contact me here or through email.
She owned the home prior to our marriage. We only have a small amount that we jointly bought, nowhere near anything to hassel about.

Its pretty cut and dry — I need someone to do that leg work, such as filing the papers, ect.

Just clean and simple, that’s all I want.
No she is not missing, no I did not kill her, she is still alive. Like I said, clean and simple.

Note: since she bought the house prior to our marriage, I have no legal claim to it.

As I said, nothing to fight over. I just want to get this done.

No contest, no nothing.
No she is not missing, no I did not kill her, she is still alive. Like I said, clean and simple.

Note: since she bought the house prior to our marriage, I have no legal claim to it.

As I said, nothing to fight over. I just want to get this done.

No contest, no nothing.
No she is not missing, no I did not kill her, she is still alive. Like I said, clean and simple.

Note: since she bought the house prior to our marriage, I have no legal claim to it.

As I said, nothing to fight over. I just want to get this done.

No contest, no nothing.
No she is not missing, no I did not kill her, she is still alive. Like I said, clean and simple.

Note: since she bought the house prior to our marriage, I have no legal claim to it.

As I said, nothing to fight over. I just want to get this done.

No contest, no nothing.

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Answer by Eff E
take half of what she has
she’d do it to you

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Question by JAZ: I’d like advice from people whose parents divorced when they were children. Should I divorce or stay?
I am unhappily married with 3 children, 6, 7 & 13 yrs old. I stay in the marriage because my kids need me, and I don’t want to see my wife get our kids after a divorce and then neglect them. My wife and I work full time, but I do most when it comes to our home & kids. I give our children attention and affection they need that my wife won’t. Our 13 year old is from a past relationship, so I don’t have a legal right to custody. I’ve taken care of her since she was 4, but her biological father wouldn’t let me adopt her. I don’t want to break up the children, so I stay in a miserable marriage.

Another reason I stay – my parents divorced when I was young. My mom moved and I didn’t see or talk to her for several yrs. My dad became an alchoholic and ignored me, so I raised myself, but with many emotional scars that still remain. I fear that my children will be hurt more by a divorce, like me, than if I stay. I don’t want them to lose either parent, so I stay for them. What do I do now?

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Answer by Liz Bow.
Yeah i would totally stay for the kids. IF you think that the kids need you then you should stay.

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Question by why: Contemplating seperation/divorce from husband, need advice.?
email me and I will give more details.

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Answer by smilingdon345
you make me sick first always try to work it out.Give the person a chance to change.

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