How to file for divorce – Divorce advice for women

Question by Just Another Girl: Adults/teens: Ever experienced the drama from parents planning to have a divorce? I need advice!!?
Background: My parents have been nearly married for almost 17 years. But now, things are finally falling apart.

My mom is definitely unhappy with her life. She threatens to commit suicide. She says one day she will runaway just to escape this prison of her life. She says she tries to escape by staying out late at night (she doesnt do alcohol or drugs but threatens to) and shes “dating” with other guys.

My dad was diagnosed with depression. And both of my parents can be verbally abusive not physical, but calling degrading names to each other and to me and my siblings. He stays out late too, but for his temporary job.

My brothers are slipping in school. I have observed the emotional and psychological toll it has on. Their frustrated and angry. And when I try to talk to my parents about these family problems, one of my siblings has outbursts of anger and crying.

But as for me, Im not in denial of the divorce. And I feel that this is what our family needs to be happy. I accept all of this, but I want to make the divorce smooth as possible and help everyone. I try to tell my parents the error of thier mistakes especially my mom. She is the most “crazy” of both of them. Also, Ive talked to both of them about how this is affecting my family and my siblings, but they change the subject and are in denial, say Im trying to be a smart alec, am talking back, I d/k wat Im talking about, and that there is nothing to be helped.

But I believe something can be done. And I am waiting for them to make a decision to get divorced. But itll be rocky. Both are currently unstable in unemployment, near close to be bankrupt for finances but we have emergency fund, brothers are emotionally and pschologically hurt, and I seem to be the only STABLE one in this household.

I NEED advice on what to do now?

-how to help my brothers with their grief and slacking in school in additon to the loss of love they feel
-help my parents with the depression they are experiencing and to make them see the reality and the effect they are having on us
-basically a way to be a stonghold and shelter for my brothers, while keeping everyone afloat.

Ive considered having my siblings both under 10 to live with me as I approach college next year. I know that this would be difficult and hard to manage. But for them I will have strength. I just dont think my parents could be stable and take care of them.

Advice needed ASAP. THANK YOU.

Best answer:

Answer by freda
Really I think the only think you can do is inspire your brothers, take them out to have fun or whatever else to break from the family. Explain to them that divorce is clearly necessary, even if they get emotional they need to hear it. Tell them you’ll always be there for them and give them some place outside of the house to express themselves. It may be hard at first but you really should consider it.

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STOP THE DRAMA!! You can stop playing the game. You can’t control what other people do or say, but you do have control over your own words and actions. Check your motives and know you don’t have to immediately respond to every harsh word, snide comment, text, e-mail, or voice message. Keep your side of the street clean and keep your sanity!

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