american woman and american child living in europe. want to divorce and take son home. need advice.?
Author: Divorce Dr // Category: DivorceQuestion by Haley Barker: american woman and american child living in europe. want to divorce and take son home. need advice.?
Ok we have been in Europe for almost 3 yrs now and I had my son here. He is 2 yrs old. My husband cheats, lies, controls, mentally and emotionally abuses me, and is not a good father. I want to leave. I cant live like this. He never keeps a steady job and is a horrible person. Why should my son and I be bound to him for 16 yrs here bc the Hague convention prevents me from taking my son back home to the united states?? I am a good mother and i can give my son and I a much better life there. My husband threatens to not buy me food and to leave for days at a time if I confront him about the cheating. I am a prisoner and no one understands. I need help to get out but all the laws are in HIS favour! I dont know what to do! I have to type fast he is downstairs. I cant take him out of the country without my husbands permission and he wont permit it without him going to. So what if we all go on vacation and then i say we arent returning to europe? myson and i are american citizens and neither of us are european citizens NOR are we residents of any european county. my husband is though. if we all 3 go and then i stay with my son will my husband be able to take him back to europe? we are citizens,my son and i. please help me. i cant be a prisoner here much longer and my son is growing up with a horrible man for role model. i hope someone understands. Any ADVICE is welcomed. Thank you.
American embassies tend to NOT work in your favor in these situations.
I emailed several lawyers who specify in family law and international law and none have answered. That was 5 days ago.
And Im really sorry but idk who mildred is.
Thank you all soooo much!
I am wondering now if we ALL go back on vacation together and then I file for divorce while we are all in the US if I could start the custody fight and then it would be on him to stay there to fight for custody. Idk. If anyone knows advice will help. Im so desperate but not enough to kidnap my son and go to prison. I need to find a loophole somewhere. There has to be a way.
Thank you so much for your wishes
xo
Best answer:
Answer by Queen of Beer
Consult an american attorney. I do believe though you can’t just take your son to america or that will be considered kidnapping. You will probably need a very good lawyer.
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