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Starting to go through a divorce and have a baby too. Any advice?
Author: Divorce Dr // Category: DivorceQuestion by mommy dearest: Starting to go through a divorce and have a baby too. Any advice?
Whats the best way to stay civil? How about custody and child support? I don’t have a lawyer neither does he. Don’t want to end up getting screwed But want the baby to also spend time with her dad.
Best answer:
Answer by Jennifer360
Communicate with your partner. Tell them, listen I know it didn’t work out b/t us, but let’s try to work out the details of our separation without taking legal action. A lot of people don’t even realize you can get divorced without getting a lawyer involved.
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February 15th, 2011 at 2:24 pm
just dont make the kid suffer when he/she is older try to make things understandable and easy for him/her
February 15th, 2011 at 2:25 pm
best thing you can do is to sit down together and aswer all these questions from each other come up with a plan that you both will agree on and stick too!
February 15th, 2011 at 3:20 pm
You will be screwed UNLESS you get a lawyer to protect your rights. If you don’t have a lot of money, you may qualfy for Legal Aid in your community. Make an appointment with a private attorney (most give 30 min. consults free…look in the phone book), and tell him your circumstances. He’ll tell you what to do. You can work out visitation yourselves, but you need to get the custody and child support worked out legally and put into writing and filed in court, or you will get screwed.
February 15th, 2011 at 3:42 pm
If you guys are getting along at this point and both want to do it civilly it can be done. Just work it out and youll still need an atty to draw up the divorce. Just get to an agreement on visiting the baby and how much he’ll pay on what you guys think is fair. If he starts jerking you around you can get an atty but they are expensive, so if he will play nice without one hopefully you can avoid a fight.
February 15th, 2011 at 4:29 pm
You already were screwed, that’s why you’re pregnant. Maybe you should consider not getting a divorce for the baby’s sake.
February 15th, 2011 at 5:29 pm
go with your first instinct and remember everything happens for a reason
February 15th, 2011 at 6:14 pm
No one wants to get screwed but the truth is that you are screwed by just having to go through this. Been there and there is nothing easy about it. First of all, try your best to not talk about your relationship. Go back to the basics of just being polite. This will be the only way you can remain civil with one another. The first time you depart from your baby will be hard but remember that he will not hurt her. Send her with everything he will need to take good care of her so that there is nothing you guys can fight about later. As for child support, it is what it is. I don’t think you will need an attorney but it is solely up to you. I believe the court will appoint you someone should it get nasty. Good luck to you and stay encourage. Life is never easy but always doable.
February 15th, 2011 at 6:59 pm
talk to each other find out what is is that you all want out of this situation………….be civil