So, marriage & divorce people, please offer me advice…?

Author: Divorce Dr  //  Category: Divorce

Question by Another Creation Enduring: So, marriage & divorce people, please offer me advice…?
I recently asked a question, that was sadly reported, about my wife’s desire for longer & fatter pickles at sporting events. I thought it was a little unfair of her to take the long fat one I got for myself and left me with the short stubby one. She routinely does things like this, and I don’t think it’s right or fair. I mean she is constantly criticizing her weight and I thought it was only appropriate to keep her from taking something so big.

How do I handle this dill situation?

(And for those with delicate sensitivities, please don’t assume I’m using innuendo.)
Allison – It was a basketball game. Make of that what you will.

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Answer by Allison, The Nice Lady, Is Back!!!
Innuendo- isn’t that an italian buttplug?

What sporting events are you going to where such ginormous pickles are sold?

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So, marriage & divorce people, please offer me advice…?

Author: Divorce Dr  //  Category: Divorce

Question by Another Creation Enduring: So, marriage & divorce people, please offer me advice…?
I recently asked a question, that was sadly reported, about my wife’s desire for longer & fatter pickles at sporting events. I thought it was a little unfair of her to take the long fat one I got for myself and left me with the short stubby one. She routinely does things like this, and I don’t think it’s right or fair. I mean she is constantly criticizing her weight and I thought it was only appropriate to keep her from taking something so big.

How do I handle this dill situation?

(And for those with delicate sensitivities, please don’t assume I’m using innuendo.)
Allison – It was a basketball game. Make of that what you will.

Best answer:

Answer by Allison, The Nice Lady, Is Back!!!
Innuendo- isn’t that an italian buttplug?

What sporting events are you going to where such ginormous pickles are sold?

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Can anyone offer me some advice – Aftermath of a Virgo & Scorpio divorce?

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Question by Sparrowbird: Can anyone offer me some advice – Aftermath of a Virgo & Scorpio divorce?
My father, a Virgo Sun, wants me to meet his new girlfriend. He keeps pushing for it, and told me it would really make him happy if I made the effort to meet her. It is important at this time, might I add, that I remain on his good side.

My mother is a Scorpio with many other planets in Scorpio. She does not like it he has a new girlfriend despite the fact that she has no desire to be married to him. She would be very unhappy, jealous even, to hear that I was going to have dinner with him and this woman.

So basically.. WHAT DO I DO!? I don’t want my Scorpio mother to feel betrayed, and she feels betrayed so easily. I don’t want to go behind her back, because that makes me uncomfortable and chances are she’d probably find out anyway being the way she is. But I also don’t want to create hostilities to my father.

Personally, I couldn’t care less about his new girlfriend and whether or not I meet her, so this is really about them.

Any advice for me…? Can any clear-minded people here set me straight on whatever it is that is confusing me?

Best answer:

Answer by TKO
I would encourage my Mom to find someone else, even if it’s only a friend to keep her mind away from your Father. I am dealing with the exact same thing. My Father is a Virgo and Mother is a Scorpio. She was deeply saddened by their divorce but yet my Father has moved on and is now dating another woman. He keeps her a secret though and he doesn’t tell us anything about her, but her age and her kid’s ages. My Mom just can’t seem to let it go, and she’s become depressed about it. I wouldn’t share certain info about your Father and his new g/f. She doesn’t need to hear it, even if she asks. Just be cordial to both parents…I’m sure it’s a little difficult and you feel torn between the two of them right now. Just be there when your Mom needs you and spend a little more time with her too. Meet the new g/f…nothing wrong with that either! Again I would encourage your Mom to move forward…there are brighter days ahead!

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Divorce Settlements ? Five common mistakes you must avoid to obtain a positive result

Author: Divorce Dr  //  Category: Divorce

Divorce Settlements ? Five common mistakes you must avoid to obtain a positive result

Negotiating your separation agreement can be one of the most trying, costly, and long-lasting events in your lifetime. Just like our transition to colder weather, a change in attitude and mindset can enhance your chances of a faster and financially positive divorce settlement.

To be better informed and able to make the tough decisions that come along in the process, take a step back and avoid these common mistakes.

Assuming your divorce will be fast and not costly

Depending upon your selection of a divorce attorney or mediator, the amount of assets at stake, the amiability of the partners, etc., your divorce can cost more money and take longer to settle than you may think. For most couples, the whole process can take one to two years. The cost can range from several hundred dollars to several thousand, even if you do not go to court (which can cost at least ,00 plus for each spouse).

At first blush, splitting the family financial pie would appear to be a fairly simple task. An equitable property division and each spouse’s divorce rights would lead you to believe that each partner would walk away with half of what was shared by two.

This mathematical formula does not consistently work in divorce. Spouses have unequal salaries and income potential. Many times, families live beyond their means; there may not be enough money to go around. These factors, along with the typical “hanging on to each dollar” can elongate the process, which leads to additional time and mounting costs.

Selling out your future

Your final decisions concerning which assets you are keeping will have an impact on your immediate future and long-term goals. What are the hidden expenses (maintenance, income taxes, etc) of the assets you may want? Will you have enough money to pay your bills? What financial assets will you have to face unexpected costs and meet long-term goals (e.g. college costs, retirement, etc.)?

Trading away long-term options (e.g. retirement accounts) for short-term needs (desires) may not be in your best interest, and may lead you to sacrifice tomorrow for what you may want today.

Ignoring Income Taxes

Income taxes will affect most of the major financial aspects of the divorce settlement. Generally speaking, the transfer of property pursuant to a divorce is a nontaxable event. But that changes if you subsequently sell the property; and you will be solely responsible for paying the tax on all of the gain (profit) earned from the time you and your spouse originally purchased it.

Consider carefully how you will file you tax returns while you are in the process of creating a separation agreement. Although there are non-financial considerations, the Married Filing Separate filing status normally yields the highest overall tax rate. Filing Head of Household usually produces the least amount of tax.

You will also want to review the tax implications of alimony and child support, dependency exemptions, and various tax credits that are associated with the custody of the child.

There are ways to minimize the income tax affect and take advantage of tax laws, so you need to be aware of the tax consequences of these transactions.

Not protecting your financial interests

Maybe you’ve been married for 10, 15, 20, years or more. It’s difficult to think about separate accounts or removing your spouse’s name from charge cards. The reality is you are at risk any time you hold a joint interest in, or have responsibility with, or are financially dependent upon your ex-spouse.

What happens in the future if your former spouse defaults on payments, becomes disabled, goes bankrupt, or dies? You should consider these possibilities that could have a significant impact on your financial position, and take appropriate measures to protect your interest (and that of your children).

Not recognizing “A bird in hand…”

You may have to weigh decisions like this: What do you want, the Lexus worth ,000 or the mutual fund worth ,000? Do you want lifetime payments that begin at age 65 (or if and when your spouse retires) or 0,000 today?

Keep the phase in mind, “a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.” In divorce situations, this axiom usually holds true. Let’s take a look at the Lexus. Sure it may be worth ,000 now, but what will it be worth next year? If you really need cash, how much could it be sold for? The mutual fund is liquid now, will most likely increase in value, and provides a cushion for those unexpected expenses.

What about that retirement income? It sounds secure, but you may have to wait 20 or 30 years to receive the payments. It may be wiser to take the cash now, make prudent investment decisions, and build your own retirement nest egg.

In my experience, it is difficult for divorcing partners to see beyond the day in front of them. Avoiding these mistakes by obtaining the divorce advice of a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst can help you maintain your financial status and minimize the risk of financial loss.

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Faggio Financial LLC is Central Maryland’s only exclusive matrimonial financial planning practice. John Faggio is a CPA, CFP® and CDFA™ who has helped hundreds of divorcing individuals reach financial divorce settlements in a rational, expedient, and cost-effective manner.


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a brothers wife has begun to disobey Allah. She does acts like talking to foreign men…

Author: Divorce Dr  //  Category: Divorce

Socially Relevant Verdicts for Muslims in the West – 1 – Shaykh Zayd ibn Muhammad ibn Haadee Al-Madkhalee: ????? ??? ??????? ???? ???? 1. Just recently a brothers wife has begun to disobey Allah. She does acts like talk to foreign men, smoke cigarettes, and has taken off her hijab. We have given her advice on numerous occasions, but until now it is of no avail. He is asking for some advice about this matter. Should he divorce her or what? Answer: In that country (France) whenever a woman becomes Muslim and prays the five daily prayers then be patient and try to fix the problem. Dont be in such a hurry to divorce her. Advice should be given to her more than once as long as she is praying. On the other hand if she isnt praying the obligatory prayers and has no regard for her modesty and honour and he leaves her for the sake of Allah, He will replace her with someone better. Naam. z-salafi.com Translated by: Abu Aaliyah Abdullah ibn Dwight Lamont Battle His Birth and Upbringing: He was born in a town called Rukoobah in Saudi Arabia in 1357H. This is where he grew up and began his first studies. Afterward, he joined the Salafee School in Saamitah. In 1368H, he came in contact with Shaikh Haafidh Al-Hakamee in Beesh and studied under him along with the other students, who were studying away from home. When the educational institute (maahad) was opened in Saamitah, he enrolled in it and graduated from it in 1379H/1380H. After this, he enrolled in the College of Shareeýah in
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Does anyone know the steps needed in order to file a Bifurcation in a divorce case?

Author: Divorce Dr  //  Category: Divorce

Question by MNS: Does anyone know the steps needed in order to file a Bifurcation in a divorce case?
My initial divorce papers were filed about a year and a half ago. The final agreement was sent to my ex shortly thereafter. He signed them once and my lawyer led me to believe that they had been filed with the court. After three months of waiting, I finally called the court myself to learn that the papers had never been filed. When I asked my lawyer about this, he told me that he was missing paperwork and waiting for my ex to sign them. We have no property to split and I am not asking for alimony, I merely want to be divorced. Since neither my lawyer nor my ex is cooperating, I would like to file a Bifurcation to grant me my divorce. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I do not want to have to file my taxes as “married” for another year. Not to mention the fact that we have been seperated for over two years and I would like to move on with my life!

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Answer by Borat_from_Kazakhstan_aka_Ted
Maybe you can file for contempt against your husband and file a grievance against your husband’s attorney for not filing the papers with the court.

Bifurcation means separating a case – which is not what you’re asking for:

http://www.legal-explanations.com/definitions/bifurcation.htm

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Q&A: Marriage and Divorce Ppl I need your advice?

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Question by heartbroken_dude: Marriage and Divorce Ppl I need your advice?
I have been trying to get back with my ex girlfriend. She left me 8months ago. We were together for 6yrs. We have been in contact with each other since she left through IM. She knows I want her back but she is skeptical because she don’t want to come back to the same situation she left.. I realize what I did wrong and I changed my behavior went to a relationship expert and I’ve been reading about what women need from their partner in a relationship. What else can I do without being pushy to show her I am serious about my intentions with her. I don’t want her back just to waste her time I have seriously changed for the better.

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Answer by Dayvid
Keep doing what you’re doing and give it some time. People want to see ongoing change that YOU want. Not the type of change that one might do for the short term in order to simply aquire what they want.

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Q&A: I need advice about if I should divorce him? I think he was using me?

Author: Divorce Dr  //  Category: Divorce

Question by mimi72: I need advice about if I should divorce him? I think he was using me?
About 4 month ago my husband kick me out of his home with all my clothes( I said his home because before marriage he made me sigh a Pre-Nup agreement and I did)
We got married 3 years ago
The main reason why we are apart was MONEY, he wanted me to pay 1/2 of everything, I used to pay 1/2 of his Mortgage , utilities plus expensas.
But the big problem was when he asked me to pay 1/2 of the mensually payment of his Sport car ( his car is not on my name, he bought it before marriage) also he wanted me to help with the payments of his Credit Cards ( he owns about $ 13,000 and again I never used those cards and there not on my name) cause of that he decided we should be apart for a while or forever…
Right now I’m living at my parents home
He always make more money than I do but anyway he wanted me to pay 1/2 ! He did not care if I have some money left for me or nothing. He is very bossy and rude
I’m still loving him but he was using me! I’m very sad and upset
Now I’m not sure if he married me because he loved me or just to have somebody to help pay his bills each month.
Actually his home, Sport car, boat belong to him becuase he bought all that before marriage and anyway is in the Pre- Nuptial Agreement.
And one day he told me _ you must help me with my mortgage paymets because if you need to rent you must pay , right?
He told me if I want 1/2 of his home I should pay him $ 45,000 because he gave for down payment $ 90,000
While I was living with him we bought a lot together ex: Furniture, appliances, barbecue grill, etc
Now I’m here without NOTHING, only with my car, my clothes and little of money in my bank.
But I’m still working hard and I’m going to start saving money only for me!!
The other day I was driving by his home and 2 weekends was more than 11.00 pm and he was not home and yesterday ( friday) was a green car parking in his driveway , mmm I’m assume he is seeing another person, while I’m here very sad …
To Frank C.:
I have a Master Degree in Spanish Literature.
Next year ( September 2007) I’m going to teach In a great School , but last year when I was living with him only I got part time job . I could not find a full time…
He owns a bussiness, he got money but he does not want to share a $ 1,00
I love to help buying food , paying gas and electric, phones, utilities. But I do not like to pay 1/2 of the Mortgage because the house never is going to be mine, NEVER .Why I have to pay his mortgage??? Plus his toys, plus his Credits cards???? CRAZY?
He does not buy nothing for me, he never asked me if I have money for gasoline or if I need something, NEVER!

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Answer by C C
Sounds like he was using you..

Be happy you two split and just think now your money can go to your bills and car in your name.

Talk to a lawyer about prenup..there maybe things you might be entitled while you were married.

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After divorce and not the best of credit. Advice.?

Author: Divorce Dr  //  Category: Divorce

Question aka * Jebus Jesus in America : After the divorce, not the best of credit. Advice.?
Okay, so I went through a divorce and I have some “old” claim before my wedding 2003rd My credit score is not as big around 615 or something. I had a bankruptcy in 1999. So I lived with a roommate for a year and I had my lawyer and other things to pay. I would like to “rent” find a place, but I fear no one hire me. I have actively engaged for 10 years and I earn 75k per year plus a set bonus.Pensez surely someone tell me? I have very good rental history and, as I said a steady income. Right behind some very old accounts, because I had a child in the hospital at a time, and I could not suivre.Merci Best Answer:
Reply from Nikki


If you can not find someone to rent the subject of a co-signer for an apartment? They make more than enough for a rental, but it is unfortunate that they keep it against you. Try the signature, and if not looking, then go and good luck.


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Q&A: Please help me I need advice on moving on after a divorce and was married for 16 years?

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Question by imraan: Please help me I need advice on moving on after a divorce and was married for 16 years?
I need help guys my wife has just been granted a divorce after 16 years of marriage .trouble started 3 years ago I blame her Mother she moved in with us even took over my space in the bedroom .WE have been granted joint custody of my 14 year old daughter .i am so bitter towards these two women my ex only did this for her mother .My ex also found herself a new boyfriend about 4 months ago I never knew about this I only found out in my daughters essay that she wrote .Things became hectic when the new boyfriend started using racial insults against my Daughter .Initially my daughter wanted to stay with me but decided rather to stay with her Mom which is fine .I guess i just cant move on now I am bitter hurt and feel deceived .Please help it will be appreciated Guys this is serious no jokers Please

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Answer by fizzgal1973
Hello,I am so sorry to hear about this. If your daughter wants to stay with you , this could be possiable. how old is she? if she is 12 in most states you can file for custody and the judge would listen to her needs. and as for this boyfriend your ex has does the mother know about the racial crap? taht is rediculious.
The problem is people don;t think about who they get with shouldn’t matter but it does if you have kids. I understand what your going through I have a son in Florida me and ex get along but he had a girlfriend and believe me I asked questions you have that right and to find out anything about that person who is haring that house with your daughter. I commend you for taking this step I would definitly get to the botoom of this. good luck to you:)

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